Claiming Attendance Allowance for an Elderly Parent: Describing Bad Days and Getting It Right

Most Attendance Allowance claims are not filled in by the person who needs the help. They are filled in by a son, daughter, partner, or carer who watches the daily reality and translates it onto a 32-page form. If you are doing this for a parent, you are the typical user of the system — and the form was designed knowing that someone like you would be writing it.

You Can Fill In the Form for Them

Anyone can help complete the AA1 form. You do not need Power of Attorney or any formal authority just to write the answers. Your parent normally signs the form. A helper may sign if they are already a benefit appointee, a deputy, or hold a Property and Finance LPA; if your parent is too ill or disabled, or lacks capacity, and the helper wishes to be appointed to deal with their benefits; or if the helper completes the form in your parent's absence or without their knowledge. A Health and Welfare LPA alone is not an accepted basis to sign.

If your parent can sign but cannot physically write, you write the answers from their account and they sign. The form should describe their experience — their needs, their difficulties, their daily routine. Write about them, not about yourself.

The Bad Days Problem

The single biggest mistake on AA1 forms is understating bad days. Older parents — particularly the generation now over 75 — tend to minimise their difficulties. They will tell you "I'm fine" while gripping the door frame, "I manage" while taking 40 minutes to dress, and "I don't need help" while the evidence around them says otherwise.

DWP decision-makers need the real picture, including the bad days. This does not mean exaggerating or describing every day as a worst day. It means being honest about the range:

Wrong approach: "Mum manages to dress herself most days."

Right approach: "Mum has three or four bad days a week when her arthritis is worse, usually in cold weather. On those days she cannot fasten buttons, pull trousers over her feet, or reach behind her back to fasten her bra. I help her dress on bad mornings, which takes about 25 minutes. On better days she can manage the top half but still needs help with socks and shoes because she cannot bend to her feet."

Wrong approach: "Dad is fine during the night."

Right approach: "Dad needs the toilet twice most nights. He uses a walking frame to get there and it takes him about ten minutes. He has fallen once getting up in the dark. On bad nights when his pain is worse, he calls out and I help him stand from the bed and walk to the bathroom. This happens two to three times a week."

The pattern to follow: describe the bad day in detail, say how many bad days per week, contrast with the better days, and explain what happens when nobody helps.

Having the Conversation

Sitting down with a parent to discuss their intimate care needs — toileting, bathing, continence — is uncomfortable for everyone involved. Some approaches that help:

• Frame it practically: "I need to fill in this form so DWP knows what help you need. It's about the money, not about judging you."
• Go room by room rather than task by task: "Let's start with the morning. What happens when you first wake up?"
• Ask about specific recent incidents: "What about that fall on Tuesday? Tell me exactly what happened."
• Do not argue if they minimise. Note what they say, then add your own observations in a separate section or supporting statement.

You can submit your own third-party statement alongside the form, describing what you witness during visits. This is factual evidence — "I arrive at 8am every morning and she is usually still in bed because she cannot get up alone" — not a medical opinion.

Gathering Evidence as a Family

As the person organising the claim, collect:

• A patient summary from your parent's GP (ask the surgery — most produce these on request)
• Any hospital discharge letters or consultant clinic letters from the past year
• An occupational therapy report if one exists
• A care diary you or another family member keeps for seven to fourteen days, recording help given, time taken, and incidents

You do not need to commission private reports. Existing NHS records plus a detailed diary and your factual statement build a strong evidence package.

Protecting the Claim Date

Phone the Attendance Allowance helpline on 0800 731 0122 before you start filling in the form. DWP logs the call date and sends a date-stamped form. If you return it within six weeks, entitlement is backdated to the phone call — buying you time to gather evidence, have the conversation with your parent, and write the answers carefully.

What Happens Next

Once the form is submitted, DWP usually decides from the written information. If it cannot get a clear picture of how your parent's condition affects them, it may ask a healthcare professional to examine them. The decision typically arrives within six to eight weeks by post.

Our Attendance Allowance Claim Guide was written for exactly this situation — a family member helping a parent through the process. It includes an AA1 question-by-question walkthrough, a care diary template, and an evidence checklist to keep everything on track.

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